There’s a lot of talk about desire: how important it is to hear, trust, and follow your own desires. Yes. Absolutely. And …
And this is not – at least from my perspective – a permission slip to simply do and have whatever your fleeting ego wants because “you deserve it.” That feels pretty shallow to me, and I much prefer to live in deep alignment with my soul’s truth.
When a desire arises purely in the mind, it has been placed there by others – through inherited beliefs, conditioning, trauma, or expectations. It’s what you have been told to want, go for, do, be.
If the end-goal of your desire is to gain status, prestige, or accolades, to “get something,” or even to meet an emotional need to feel worthy, it is not a soul desire.
This can be confusing. Because when we hear “follow your desires,” we may think of a spread of delectable food before us, or a sexual encounter, or a vision that pops up in the mind. This is not necessarily your desire, but it is a starting point of self-inquiry.
Why do you desire it? What is the desire underneath that desire? And the desire underneath that?
Are you seeking to fulfill the desire because you believe you lack without it?
This is what I see often. If the desire is rooted in the (subconscious) belief you are not enough already – and you must have this thing to be good – it shows you where you can do the real work of filling yourself with love. Of offering compassion and forgiveness to the parts of you that were cast out and left a hole of wanting and incompletion.
Personally, I make a point of checking in to ensure my desires expand who I already am – not make me something I “think” I want to be.
In other words, if I desire money, for example, I do the soul work of accessing my inherent abundance, my freedom of choice, my devotion of saying “yes” to me. If I desire a form of sexual intimacy, I want it to come from a place of pure pleasure, soulful connection, and union – not a desire to be wanted, or to fulfill a hole of loneliness, or a manipulative power play.
That’s because true, soulful desires come from a place of fullness, not lack. And when they are rooted in lack, fear, or scarcity, they are ripe for being explored so we can heal and nourish and feel into those parts of ourselves with a new level of consciousness.
Following the path of our desires so potent precisely because it leads us down this path of transformation. Desires help us see ourselves more clearly. Once you have tapped into your soul’s desires, you get to claim yourself fully worthy of experiencing their ecstatic fulfillment.
Doesn’t that sound delightful?
As a simple practice, take a few moments to sit with your hands on your belly. After breathing deeply, begin to ask, “Show me what you desire. What do you want for me?” Listen. Allow the responses to rise up from your body (not down from your head). Then, bring the desire up to your heart. Let it sit there for several moments. Ask, “Does this align with my heart’s truth?”
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