“Holy” and “Sensuality” aren’t usually used in the same sentence. If anything, we’ve been told that sensuality is anything but holy.
But what if reclaiming your sensuality as holy was the same as reclaiming the feminine as holy?
What if your sensuality was your ecstatic life force energy?
What if it was activated by activating the power of love within you?
My friend and colleague Pamela Power Scanlon and I are hosting a Holy Sensuality Retreat for Women in Slippery Rock, Pennsylvania over the solstice portal June 20 – 22, 2025.
We talk about what Holy Sensuality is in this week’s episode of the Soul Sovereignty & Sexuality Podcast so you can reclaim it for yourself.
Doing so is a pretty radical, revolutionary act, don’t you think? : )
Tune into the full episode on iTunes, Spotify, or YouTube.
At the end, we mention one thing you can start to do right away to reclaim your sensuality as holy.
During the Holy Sensuality Weekend Retreat, you will begin to:
* Drop into your soul’s sacred desires
* Reconnect with your body’s innate wisdom and pleasure
* Activate your ecstatic life force energy
* Reclaim your sexuality as your own
* Release old wounds, fears, or beliefs that have kept you from your holy sensuality
* Expand your capacity to receive love into all of you
Reach out if you have any questions or desire to schedule a free chat with us!
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About Pamela Power Scanlon:
As a Divine Feminine Alchemist, Pamela is dedicated to restoring balance and harmony within individuals, relationships, humanity, and Mother Earth by reviving the wisdom of the sacred feminine. Her mission is to empower others to reclaim their wholeness, embody their divine essence, and fall deeply in love with themselves and their lives.
Everything she creates falls under the Love Empowered brand and the Love Empowered Foundation, both of which she founded to support personal transformation and the collective awakening of love consciousness. Through her work, she invites others to remember their truest selves, embrace the power of divine love, and radiate that love into the world.
Pamela’s work is a call to those ready to reconnect with their soul’s purpose, embody their sacred power, and step fully into a life of love and meaning.
You can find her at https://loveempowered.com/
About your Host Jessica Falcon:
A former lawyer turned mystic, Jessica is an International Soul Embodiment Guide & Relationship Expert. She guides you to embody your power, reclaim your sovereignty, and experience true freedom through retreats, workshops, and online portals of transformation. Learn more and access your free Ritual to Reclaim your Sovereignty here.
What is Holy Sensuality (and How do you Reclaim it)? Episode Full Transcipt:
0:02 welcome to another episode of the soul sovereignty and sexuality podcast with myself jessica falcon international soul embodiment guide and relationship expert with a very special guest today pamela power scanlon and she and i are leading a holy sensuality retreat together this year june 20th through 22nd over the solstice portal and we want to talk about what holy
sensuality is because holy and sensuality has not generally been used in the same sentence together at least for a few thousand years and when we talk about holy we’re usually not thinking about the body and sensuality And when we think about sensuality, we’re not often thinking about the soul and the divine and the two of us bridge
them together. Just like even now, a few minutes ago, as we’re connecting before recording, we’re literally just like, I feel like crying and I also feel like laughing and it’s one in the same, right? It gets to be all of it.
Yeah.
yeah so we’re going to talk about what the sensuality is what the holy is and and pamela can tell you a little bit more about what she does toward the end of the show as well so pamela you sensuality what does it mean for you so thank you first
of all for having me here with you today sister this is i’m a conversation i am so excited to share with you specifically because you’ve been on the same path that I’ve been on. And the two of us are coming at this topic from a very different perspective and yet the exact same perspective. So yeah, You know,
you as a single woman and exploring your sensuality and me as a married woman exploring my sensuality. So we’re looking at this from two different sides, but it’s the same coin, right? So it’s exciting to have this conversation with you. And I’m truly honored to be hosting this retreat with you because I feel like it’s
so important that we start having the conversation to merge these two pieces, our what it is that makes us holy and divine with what it is that makes us human and and sensual as women you know and sensual can be something as simple as in my eyes having a beautiful piece of dark chocolate and smelling it
before you eat it and just really tuning in to the texture and the smoothness of the chocolate and allowing yourself to soak in the fragrance of the chocolate before you bite into it and then allowing taking that first bite and letting it melt on your tongue and getting a real taste of the chocolate like what does it
actually taste like what are the scents within that chocolate and then Something that I always it also turns me on even more like that sensual zing that gives me such a sensual experience is to think about. all the steps it took for that chocolate to even get into my mouth. The fact that it’s cacao bean,
somebody had to grow it and love it enough to want to grow it and then cultivate it and harvest it and then package it and then send it to me and get it into my, you know, in my kitchen so I could put it on my plate.
And it’s like this whole experience of love that just expands my enjoyment of a piece of chocolate you know and so I’ve always I’ve always considered myself a very sensual woman because I love the feeling of being at the beach and the smell of the salty air as soon as I get to the beach it’s just like
oh my god my body starts to shift I’m like oh and then the sun on my face and then the wind and my hair and it just makes me feel so alive, so alive. So that part of myself I’ve always been aware of, but there was a huge block that I was experiencing when it came to,
when you’re looking at sensuality and tying it to sexuality, that’s where I have had to do a lot of work in self reclamation and body reclamation And I’ve experienced like this detaching from the stories that I had that just because you’re a sensual female that you can’t be that unholy at the same time. So, you know,
this conversation is so important because what you and I have both realized as we both done our inner work is to bring into wholeness all of ourselves, That which is sensual and sexual and all of those things and that which is holy and bringing love to all of it and allowing all of this.
all these different parts of ourselves to become united as a whole woman, like it’s an embodied woman. And that’s really taken a lot of work for, um, me to get to the point where that could happen. So I’m going to stop there because there’s another element to, um, that I love to,
that I know the conversation will go toward, which is how did I get there? But, um, I feel like that’s, I’m going to take a pause and then turn it back over to you.
I like that you brought in the aspect of unifying, right? Because to me, sensuality is right to sense, to, to feel and what allows us to feel it’s when we are present, when we are here, when, Our heart is open and we are receiving, right? Sensuality is a receptive state. It is an allowingness, allowing the chocolate, right?
Allowing the senses to take it in. It is, we are taking something in. We are becoming one with it. We are communing with it. Sensuality is not something we do from ahead thought it’s not a mental experience when we are mentally experiencing something we are generally not in our body right so sensuality immediately brings us into the
body it immediately or rather the other way around being in the body is what allows us to sense allows us to be sensual and yet it is coming with that inner union it is coming with that awareness and that is not turning anything away because we can’t really be sensual if we’re not allowing all of it in.
For example, how we started this conversation before we hit the record button, we’re feeling some tears, some sadness, some joy. We can’t experience joy if we can’t also experience grief. It is actually the same part of the brain that regulates joy and grief. It is also the same heart that opens to grief and opens to joy.
And so sensuality is being with what is, with consciousness of the divine, welcoming it in and bringing it in, right? So it’s the savoring, it’s the allowingness. And that’s why it’s something we often have to come back into, as you were saying, because we’re in a culture that tells us to be in our head,
that tells us it’s better to have intellectual pursuits than bodily pursuits, right? The prizes lawyers over farmers, for example, that’s just one obvious way. We say like mental labor is better than physical labor. Being in the head is better than being in the body. We could go on and on and on.
But the journey into coming into the body, as you were saying, that is what brings us into the senses. And yet it’s more than that because so many people start to go into the body and then can’t actually connect with the senses and can’t actually connect with all of the emotions and feelings that are arising.
And so what was your journey into that opening of sensuality that we’re really going to be ultimately helping other people in this retreat as well.
So I love that you asked me this question because I’ve given so much thought to it lately. Just like, actually, it’s been more of an observation that’s been happening as I now, what’s really cool is that I’ve gotten to the point where I can go into that conscious space where I’m just
in this kind of state of curiosity and observation. I can see myself on this more detached state. So I love reflecting on, well, what does this path look like for me really? And so where my path, my journey began was with meditation and understanding how much I had been influenced by,
the stories in my mind that I had accepted as truth. And as such, they became beliefs in my subconscious. And because they were in my subconscious, I wasn’t consciously aware of how much they were impacting me, my feelings about myself, my relationship with myself, the way I saw the world and, and honestly, other people, you know,
it just, there was so many hangups that I had in my own mind like insecurities and self-worth issues and all of these different things based on these stories that I thought were true because that’s, I live in this, you know, we live in this society that is constantly putting messages our way that’s
influencing us without us realizing that they’re influencing us because we don’t have a relationship with our inner world, which is where we can access what’s actually true. And so mine started in my mind And then listening to my inner guidance system, like once I did that, I was like, oh, wait a second. I’m already,
I’m all of a sudden, like I started to realize I was, I have this other source of information that can actually help guide me to the truth. And if I just listen to that and this, this information is coming from this other world, this inner world that I didn’t even know existed. Like, what’s here?
Like what’s here for me? And that’s when the curiosity piece started to come for me. And so it started in my mind, but then I followed the voice, which I just found myself feeling very drawn into my heart. And that’s when the real changes started to happen because that’s when I started to access that voice,
the voice of truth, which in this case, I’m speaking very much to the truth of love. divine love that exists within me that I didn’t know existed within me. I always thought was way far away in heaven somewhere. And when I found this voice, it wasn’t just a relationship that I started to heal with God.
It was a relationship that I started to heal really deeply, find healing in with myself and with my femininity. because the voice that I felt inside my heart felt extremely feminine. It felt, it was where I started to come back to, to receive this feeling of,
it was like a maternal love where I would feel comforted in all of my emotions. And, like the forgiveness that, you know, I would have to come back to with myself when I would mess up and screw up with things, you know, all these, like giving myself compassion for when I would do things wrong,
like all those feelings. I’m like, wow, this feels very different than being in my mind where there’s judgment and, And, you know, those feelings of not enough and feeling disappointed and all of these emotions. And I started to be able to see that like there was it was very different.
But the more that I was connecting into my heart space, the more it was helping me find ways to look at things differently. through and interpret things. My mind was interpreting things differently, being connected to love. So then those emotions where I was like tapping into this whole wellspring of positive loving emotions,
like in a whole new way. And so doing that and first giving compassion to myself and learning how to love myself and seeing myself, you know, from this more divine perspective, started to shift so many things, including my understanding of what it means, who I am as a woman.
And then I started to shift my understanding of what femininity actually means and starting to change my stories around being sensitive. an emotionally sensitive being, right? Because that had always been seen as weak. And I started to ask, like, is it really a weakness to be this emotional? Because I’m really freaking emotional. And like you were saying,
there’s like, what I’ve found though, is that I’ve found this sense of, I started to find a sense of rightness in every emotion, including like something like anger, right? Because the more I allow myself to see anger as a positive emotion that when tied to love and what gives you one the capacity to do, it suddenly, like,
widen my capacity to love. So it was almost like the more I was able to tune in and be angry, the more I could bring love into that anger and then do something with it for the positive. So as I’m exploring all this, I was like, wow, this is so different.
This is what it feels like to be connected to your divinity, quote unquote, is like finding every part of you right. And so then I felt this pull to go downward into my womb and into, yes, I’m going to use the word pussy because it was very potent. And then I needed to start retelling that story.
What does it mean? You know, my womb, my pussy, this whole part of my body that I just thought, well, from here up, it’s all divine, right? Right. But here down, I’m not really sure. I don’t think so. It’s like holding a lot of stuff and so many stories down there.
And I didn’t even realize were keeping me from connecting to all that those areas of our bodies hold. It is the seat of our femininity. It is the center of our pleasure. And it is the area of us that allows us to birth new life, whether it’s a human life or anything that we want to create.
And it’s the part of us that brings us into wholeness with our partners that allows us to become one in love with another human being. So how could that not be divine also? And so as I was retelling that story, then all of a sudden I felt this like, oh my God. So this whole topic around sensuality
absolutely needs to be told. We need to explore this because then that’s when this feeling of wholeness and this unification within myself became real. And it’s when I felt this sudden sense of like freedom and aliveness that I’ve never experienced before.
And so I felt so much benefit when I was entering into my mind and then more when I entered in my heart. But when then, when I went into this party, part of my body and said, yes, like I want to, I want to own. my sensuality. I want to own my sexuality.
I want to really allow myself, give myself the freedom and permission to say yes to all of it and find the beauty and the love and the divinity, the sacredness, the sacredness of that aspect of me too. Oh my God. It was like, yes, yes, yes, yes. And that’s been,
they’ve created a ripple effect that is just radiated into my marriage and into my relationships with others. And it’s just, now I feel right. Now I’m starting to understand what wholeness actually means.
And it’s a part of ourselves that, particularly as women, but even as men, we’ve been cut off from and told isn’t divine, isn’t holy. And women in particular, I think, have a hard time connecting with the womb, connecting with the yoni, the pussy, whatever you want to call it, right?
We even sometimes cringe at hearing those words and because trauma is there and it can create a fear of going in. It can create a fear of the times we have been betrayed, of the times we’ve betrayed ourselves. There’s a lot of emotion that we hold in the pelvis. There’s a lot of
stories and traumas from this life and others we hold on our sexual organs and so you know this is particularly what we’re doing right the sensuality the holy sensuality weekend is not about sexuality because that we’re going to be doing more in the future around specific sexual healing because that is a much bigger door and
takes a lot more time than a weekend and when we start to connect with our sexuality as our own. I think that’s a real key piece because we tend to, men and women associate our sexuality with something we share with others only, right? Like, oh, if I have the act quote of sex, right?
Then I’m in my sexual organs versus oh, this is available to me, right? As you were saying, this is for me. This includes parts of me. This includes my deep soul voice, my access to my own pleasure, my access to my own desire, my access to these parts of myself that I didn’t even know existed.
And until we open the door and explore those parts and Allow our life force energy. To me, our sensuality is our life force energy activated. We are here. We are alive. We are present. We are alive not because we’re only feeling joy or positivity. We are alive because we are feeling.
I have had some of the most alive moments in the midst of tremendous grief, in the midst of roaring rage. Because all of me is present and all of me is here. And that’s the real work, right? That’s the retreat coming alive, bringing yourself online, coming into the holiness of life itself,
which is that feminine merging with the divine masculine, the consciousness of of the divine that is the soul that pervades us that pervades all of life right so it’s it is union right the holy the sensuality the union the masculine the feminine the union the heart the womb the union right it is the coming together into that
state and so with that you know we also get to look at right that’s why it’s nice to do this with other people because we get to look at what scares us about that like what are the fears we have around that in deep conversation what is the resistance we have to our own womb which is
really a question what is the resistance we have to our own power i think that’s the deeper question So if you’re listening to this episode, right? And you’re going, I don’t know, that sounds cool. Great. Sensuality, holiness, reunion. Maybe I could take this into the bedroom with my lover.
Maybe I could take this into the bedroom with myself. Maybe I could just take this into my life, right? And live fully alive. But also, what about that scares me? What about that says, I don’t know. I’m not sure. Can I handle that? Am I willing to open the door? Am I willing to go into these places?
And having the support of a group, having the support of other women, having the support of guides like Pamela and myself is so helpful because most of the time, those are the very places that need that love that we’ve denied, right? And that’s why we say that
That this is a weekend of embodiment practices and ritual that activate the power of love within you. Because quite frankly, and I want to talk about this briefly, there’s a lot out there around sensuality and sexuality and the feminine. that to me just feels like the wounded feminine wounding itself again where there’s
still love is not the central focus right where there’s still a denial of the heart because there has been a separation of the heart and love with sexuality and sensuality and so let’s speak to that briefly because I think that that that for me has turned me off from let’s say weekends or retreats or teachers, right,
that talk about sensuality or sexuality, because it doesn’t feel like love is an essential component of that. Love doesn’t feel like it is even recognized within that. And I know that that’s one of the reasons you and I are so passionate about this in particular, is because love is the core component of everything that we do.
And that shifts our approach to sensuality, and it shifts our approach to sexuality. So how would you speak to that?
Um, this to me is key. Like this, this part of the conversation is key. This is why I, you know, I had, I started with my mind just to understand the influences that were all the stories that were influencing me. But honestly, for me, and what I believe is so true is that we, that That love piece,
that connection piece that comes from by way of the heart is absolutely essential that we begin there because. That love changes the lens through which we see all these other aspects of ourselves.
Absolutely.
It is that love that gives us an understanding of all of those, these different aspects of ourselves that are rooted in what’s true. And it is that love that gives us the, provides us with the sense of like being able to find right the rightness in all of it so without that
that is that that love like holding all of it there’s like, it’s really, it would be way harder. It would be way harder to get there. So- Is it even possible?
Like really, is it even possible to truly access the depths of oneself without the capacity for love to welcome those parts?
Is it even really possible? I think it would. So here’s my thought on that. I’ve actually given this a lot of thought recently. I think it’s possible to get there But I think what would happen is as you go into that area of your body, you’d eventually get up into your heart and find that love.
I guess my answer is no. But I think that regardless, if you’re willing to do the work, you could get there, but it would require that shift of, oh, wait a second, what I’ve been missing all along that will make this work I’ve been doing actually embodyable let’s make it embodyable is to is to understand that it
requires love so yes i guess my answer is no i just think you know somebody goes into having like wants to really explore their sensuality and sexuality and and through their womb first, that’s okay as long as they continue to follow the guidance because I think the guidance,
the body would eventually take them up into the heart because the heart is where you can connect to that love that really will change the perspective of everything. and provide you with the truth that is needed and required and provide you with the emotions that are needed and required for you to find that sense of wholeness.
So, and then if it’s okay, I’d love to speak to one thing as far as the retreat goes. As we’re, you know, you and I, one of the reasons we talked about having this podcast is is because we recognize that there will be women attending the retreat who are on
totally different ends of the spectrum with all of this. Some maybe much more, have done much more work and some just whose body said, yeah, this, I feel like a yes, but I really don’t want to go and I can’t go because this feels scary and I don’t know why.
So I want to say you and I both are so wholeheartedly aligned And the belief that this connection with our heart and connection to love is essential for us to get there. So I want to just say, as you did before, I want to reinforce that we are going to meet you where you are.
And that we are going to be providing this very safe container. And we’re going to be holding hands in sisterhood. And we’re going to be in a space where we have the freedom to be able to connect with other women who get where we’ve been. Because it doesn’t matter where you are.
You and I have been on every spot on the spectrum. We’ve We’ve experienced it all. So we know what it feels like to be at every different level. So we have that ability to hold space for women, no matter what level, where they are on the spectrum and be the big sisters, be those, you know,
that maternal sense of love and to be able to hold that sacred container so that women do feel safe. And it will begin with a conversation around the heart. just a simple conversation about connecting to the heart and why that’s so important.
And the activation, right? Cause it’s, cause it’s not, this isn’t just about a conversation, right? Like sensuality is not an understanding, right? Spirituality is not a concept. And so it’s the actual activation of these energies within you that Pamela and I both bring. Right. And, and even in this conversation,
there are still hopefully pieces and parts of you, even subconsciously being activated, the soul going, oh yeah, I remember that. Oh yeah, that capacity I have to go deeper. Oh yeah, that central part of me that wants to be awakened, not because I’ve made everything in my life perfect,
not because oh the kids are out of the way or the husband’s always happy or not because i have the perfect lover not because my body is perfect not because of all these things that we wait to or we say check off and then i’ll feel sensual and
then i’ll be holy and then i’ll be divine and then i’ll be happy like no like this is really about activating this just feels like really important it wants to come through this is really about activating that capacity at all times regardless of what’s going on, right?
regardless that capacity to be in the moment that capacity to be in the body that capacity to come into your heart that’s really what holy sensuality is about and that can look like eating dark chocolate and that could look like being in bed and
that can look like standing in front of somebody who’s upset or feeling your own rage and holding it and witnessing it and embodying it with the awareness of your divinity and And allowing yourself to be present and to be real and to be open and to be honest and to feel what you feel.
And it’s all welcome, right? And that is so rare. That is so rare. And I think that’s what we hold. And that’s what we want you all to experience. Whether you join us at the retreat or not, we hope you do. But it’s that capacity, right? To really be alive, right?
without the mind dictating whether or not we can or can’t. No, right? It’s that capacity to welcome and to receive life into you, to activate your own life force energy, to know that this is your birthright. That’s what I hear you saying. And again, I want to reinforce that.
Yeah. Yeah. And you were talking earlier about allowing is part of our feminine nature and you just were using the word receive which is something that i was hoping would come around again because i it’s so it’s it’s so um important for women to understand that you know because we give we give we give
we give we give But there’s also, in order to give and not deplete, we need to be receiving. We have to receive. We need to understand how to be receptive, to fill our cups. And that’s part of all of this because when we can understand our true nature as women, we are,
when we give ourselves the freedom to receive and then allow, then we become refilled and refueled. And then we can give in such a much bigger way and serve the way we ultimately desire to serve because all women are wired to want to serve, but we can even through activating all this within ourselves can expand our capacity.
And you’re talking about expanding your capacity. It’s also expanding our capacity to do that, which we love, which is to give from an, from a, give and when we give from an a full cup our our ability to to have created the
ripple effect it goes bigger and it goes wider and it goes bigger and it goes wider you know and to me like it’s so it starts so simple with something like oh I like the idea of learning how to be a better receiver.
I like the idea of being a better allower and like trusting that I’m going to be received that which I need. And that’s where we can start. The other side of that is, and then all of a sudden in doing that, if every woman on the planet can do that,
imagine the impact we could have as we resurrect that gift, the power within that, the change we could create on a macro level. to within ourselves, our relationships with, you know, the planet and humanity. It’s just like and then so it’s there’s just this huge ripple effect. But again, it all starts with this tiny little seedling. right?
Before you have the garden, you got to plant the little baby seed. So we just plant this little seed and say, yeah, I’m going to give it a little bit of water every day, a little bit of sunshine every day. And what else is required is a little bit of love. Because, you know,
if you put a little seedling into the ground and you leave it there, it isn’t going to do what it’s going to do if you give love to it every single day.
And I think, so as we wrap up here, I just want to say that operating from overflow right allowing and receiving is one of the core teachings of magdalene and that is that is the activation of the life force energy that is the activation of the centrality is that the cup overfloweth right and
We can’t be in our sensuality when we’re operating from depletion. It’s just not possible. And so this is about coming back into the fullness, into the wholeness, but through inner nourishment and the inner connection, right? Instead of seeking right outside, which is what we’re so trained to do and so conditioned to do. It’s about refueling and, and,
accessing that inside of you that infinite well inside of you this is accessing the infinite well inside of you if nothing else if you take nothing else from this conversation holy sensuality is accessing the infinite well of love within you and allowing it to permeate you and move through you and enliven you.
And that is what this weekend is about, to activate that infinite well of love, that power of love within you. And so I hope you will join us, Pamela, before we close out. say any last words and then where people can find you. And what we’ll also do is we’ll put the link below to the registration site,
which is actually at the path to sovereignty.com. We’ll put that link below. You can also schedule a call with us. If you want to do that, there’s a link for that on the website. If you want to schedule a chat with us, if you have questions, if you have resistance, if you’re like, but I don’t,
I’m sure you can schedule that, but say any last words and where people can find you and we’ll post those links below as well.
Um, so just on the heels of what you just shared about this infinite love. Um, when I first started meditating, something that I was just like a little affirmation that came from my heart that I would repeat every single day is my heart is a wellspring of divine love. My source of all my connection to all. So.
I mean, I just love that you have experienced something so similar, that like infinite well that brings alive, has led to this sense of aliveness within you is so similar to me. And I just love this, how parallel our journeys have been.
as far as people and I’m so excited for this retreat and I truly hope that the women who are listening will sign up because we are going to have the most fun because I guess the last thing I’ll say about that is just that no matter what we
do even earlier when we came both of us feeling as you said very tender which was good and close to tears we were at the same time laughing like there’s never a time that you and I have not connected and ended in pure laughter so There will be lots of fun conversations.
And I guarantee even if there are tears, there will be just as much laughter and joy and dancing and excitement and sistering. And it’s going to be phenomenal. And embodying. Embodying. Yes. And chocolate. Definitely chocolate. And roses. Yes. And roses. And all the goodness. All the good things. Yeah.
So when people can find me at loveempowered.com, that is the name of my brand. It’s loveempowered.com. And that’s where you can find me too on social media. My social handles are all kind of being changed, but you can find me as Pamela Power Scanlon on Instagram or just find me on Facebook.
I think I’m Pamela Power on Facebook. I have some rebranding to do.
I will put all those links below in case you’re confused by all the different names.
Thank you to everyone who’s listening. Feel free to post your comments.