You are the one in control, not your feelings

Your feelings are not who you are. They are not your truth. Rather, they are forms of energy moving through you. It is essential for self-mastery to develop what is often referred to as “witness consciousness.” It is the part of you that is witnessing the feeling happen. Instead of, “I am angry,” the witness observed, “I feel angry.”

Through the process of observation alone, you can allow the feeling to move through you – revealing its lessons and truth along the way – without attaching to it. It’s easy to begin to identify with your feelings and claim them as belonging to you. But then they just get stuck and stay present in your reality, taking away your joy.

Even worse, they get used as ammunition against others because you decide, “they made you feel that way.” This is a whole other topic I could spend hours on but suffice it to say: When you let another person “make you feel a certain way,” you have given them your power. It’s like handing yourself over and saying, “Here, do you what you want with me.”

Personally, I don’t desire to give anybody that kind of authority over me. By working with your feelings consciously, you bring the power back to you. Not by ignoring the feeling – which is giving your power over to the feeling itself because you’re scared of it or deem it “bad” – but by facing it. How?

(1) Acknowledge the feeling’s presence. It’s akin to sensing energy. You notice it’s there instead of pushing it away or pretending it’s not.

(2) Be curious. What’s this feeling about? Where is it coming from? What does it want to show me?

(3) Let yourself sit with the feeling without acting on it. Observe it. Watch it. Let it be. Often, I ask, “Where are you in my body?” Sometimes it shows me a visual, like fire in my core.


You are the one in control, not your feeling.

You have the power; it doesn’t.

After full recognition, you can take the feeling into deeper inquiry through practices like body dialog, which I love to teach my clients, and journaling. Let it show you why it’s there. As you uncover layer after layer, the feeling will always bring you close to your soul’s deeper truth.

If you are a woman who is ready to fully reclaim your power in every aspect of your life – be it in a relationship, with your body, or at work – join me for a 9-month journey to Unleash your Sovereign Power. We begin in February 2022. Applications close February 21st. Learn more here. It will transform you – and your life.

Plus, join me and a host of other fabulous speakers during WE! Ignite’s conference on gender February 10 – 12, 2022. Get your tickets here. I will be speaking to Activate your Feminine Power on Friday and leading an experiential workshop on Saturday.


Jessica Falcon

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Jessica Falcon is devoted to helping you heal the wounds of the feminine and reclaim your sovereignty so you experience the ecstasy of full-bodied freedom. A former lawyer turned mystic, she is an International Soul Embodiment Coach, Speaker, and forthcoming Author of The Power of Eve: Heal the Wounds of the Feminine and Reclaim your Sovereignty. It gets to the root of violence against women so women can fully own who they are and reconnect to the power of their body, voice, and sexuality. Doing so is the key to experiencing freedom in all of your relationships. You can learn more about her Portals of Transformation & Activations at

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