We all have stories. Life experiences that shape us, unravel us, put us back together again. Trauma. Grief. Disconnection. Stories of pain or joy – or both.
The question I have for you is: What stories will you carry forward?
Often, we keep telling ourselves the old stories as if they are still happening. We limit ourselves to them. Make them our present-day reality even though they belong in the past.
Recently, I was talking with someone who never felt good enough growing up. Now, over 30 years later, she’s still believing she’s not good enough. Trying to prove to her family, to her clients, to herself that she is needed. That she is valuable. That she matters. And she’ll prove it – by doing and doing, giving and giving, even if it means her own well has run dry.
Because the story she is clinging to – and letting run her life – is: I’m never good enough.
As a child, she tried to prove it to her mother. Now, subconsciously, she’s trying to prove it to everyone else. She took her mother’s belief and made it her own. She continues to see herself through her mother’s eyes, not her own. This will keep happening until she decides she is good enough. Until she decides to rewrite her story.
It’s easy to cling to old stories. In a way, they comfort us. They are known and familiar.
No matter how much they actually cage us, we cling onto them because the discomfort of letting go and venturing into a new story feels scary as f*ck to the ego.
Letting go of the old story requires letting go of a false identity. There may be a void of emptiness while the soul digs deep to uncover: What story will I now tell myself?
I’ve found myself resisting this kind of discomfort between the old and the new. “What will it look like? Who will I be? How will I know what to do? What if it never happens?” It feels scary and different. My ego demands to know: What if there’s nothing left for me to cling to, and have nothing but me?” All alone. In the darkness. Afraid.
And then I offer myself reassurances. “I know this is scary for you. But you can do this. You desire to expand into more of who you are. Your truth. Your power. I will be there with you every step of the way, especially when you feel like you can’t see where to place your foot. I’ve got your back.”
Changing stories is unfamiliar. Rocky. Challenging. Old skins fall off. Old lives crumble. Old pains get revealed. There’s no escaping the discomfort.
But the discomfort of walking through it is actually easier than the discomfort of staying in a cage that is now way too small for you to breathe in. It’s suffocating the life out of you, as it presses against your lungs.
You are not here to live a half-alive life. You are here to live. To fully embrace it all. To learn how to dance in the darkness because the joy in your heart as you reunite with your soul is enough. Period. It is enough because you are enough.
I’ve become an expert at unlocking cage doors for those who are willing to open them. You still have to walk out once the key is discovered. But I will be there, holding your hand, helping to light the way. For information on 1:1 private sessions, click here. For those of you ready to Unleash your Sovereign Power, we begin a 9-month group journey in February 2022. Join us here.
Surrender into your power through radical love. Any time you feel the desire to hold onto an old story, say to yourself:
That was then. This is now.
My past is not my future.
What story do I choose to live?
Ask your heart. Let it guide you.