The essence of the work I do is redefining the way we love to include both self and other. It can only happen through the heart, which always sees both.
The ego-mind, on the other hand, always sees one or the other. It is either better than or worse than.
Violence against women can be traced back to a shift that took place in history about 5,000 years ago when men no longer viewed women through the eyes of their heart. If she had been seen through this lens, her soul would have been recognized. Instead, it was denied, and she was turned into a (literal) possession.
Despite all the research and archeological evidence we have around the time this shift took place, we still don’t know why it happened. One can only speculate. My personal theory is this could only occur if men were cut off from their own hearts. Survival fears can easily do this – as we are now seeing globally.
Once the nervous system goes into fear alert, our reptilian brains kick into overdrive: fight – oppose – war. We create a divide: me or them.
Fear creates division.
The amazing thing is we, as humans, have the capacity to override our reptilian instincts if we activate the prefrontal cortex. It is the conscious part of the mind (it sits between the eyes) that can view fear (all the incessant, ruminating thoughts) and not act upon them.
Then, it chooses – consciously – how to respond. Beautiful, right?
I like to take it a step further and bring the fearful thoughts into my heart and wrap them with love. Because at the root of most fears is the desire to protect and keep us from (perceived or real) harm. Instead of simply trying to cast the fears away, I ask, “What am I afraid of?”
I had this come up recently because I’m not immune to the global fear tactics being perpetrated on us all right now. They got me last week, and I felt disconnected from my body and out of sorts. By forcing myself to face what was coming up, I had the ability to give myself compassion.
I feared bodily harm or death.
I feared not belonging.
I feared not surviving.
I feared disconnection from those I love.
I feared being wrong.
In giving fears a safe, loving, conscious place to be witnessed – through the lens of my heart – I could regain control over them (rather than letting them control me).
Suddenly, I felt more connected internally again. I settled back into my body, and my heart opened even wider into compassion for my own experience and the experience of others.
Staying in fear would have put me into a state of division. I chose instead to rise above it through love by opening my heart.
If division is created through survival fears – which can cut us off from the wisdom of our hearts – we will only destroy ourselves by continuing down this 5,000-year-old path. It destroys and kills everything we love. Hopefully by now we have learned our lesson: It doesn’t work.
Collectively, this is where we’re headed (again) unless each person begins to recognize they have a choice. The choice is to settle into their body to open their heart and refuse to create separation.
To refuse to follow the fearful thoughts by wrapping them in love.
To refuse to deny the soul of anyone – including ourselves – and rise above this chaotic mess.
The soul exists beyond our physical experience, and it will take us to higher vistas if we let it.
What can you do right now? Center into your heart. Open it wide. Bring everything – every fear – every experience – inside. Then act from this place.
With all my love,
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